Thank you for your thoughts. Maybe I'm just different, but I don't get as deeply affected by the subtler effects of crime that you describe. Obviously, loss of life, injuries, deprivation of livelihood and other traumas are always a big deal. I haven't been a victim of anything that serious. I have been a victim of a number of crimes, though -- financial crimes, a car break-in (someone threw a brick through my window and trashed the inside of the car looking for something to steal...and failed to find anything valuable enough), and my car once got totaled by a reckless driver who didn't have insurance. I don't think any the perpetrators in these situations were ever brought to "justice," but I don't feel traumatized. I don't have ill will toward them. I just would want them not to do it again.
Sometimes it’s hard to see the damage before you are through the forest. Give it a couple years. Or live in denial, whatever is easier for you, it’s not my business. But, I wouldn’t compare car theft, or a car accident to someone breaking into the house you sleep in, or stealing millions of dollars from you (i’ve had both happen). I’ve had my car broken into multiple times this year, it’s not personal. It’s part of the taxes for living in a big city imo. The crimes you are describing with Martin are quite different. If there’s big one similarity between alpha personalities, and the people they attract, neither of them seem to understand their complicated relationship with danger. This is the meeting place for narcissists and masochists.
It’s a middle class myth that, because someone’s financial reputation or situation is not altered significantly by a thief, that it isn’t as bad. I’ve come out of business situations where I felt assaulted by people with no moral compass, and it 1. brought out the worst in me once I realized how easy it is to lie to someone’s face for your own benefit and 2. made me cynical, sardonic even. Big surprise that the near billionaire he f’d over didn’t bat an eyelash. Once you’ve been that successful in the corporate battlefield greed doesn’t surprise, it’s the other way around. You’re pleasantly surprised when someone monetary successful isn’t an absolute monster. Think back to any time someone has stolen anything from you. Have you ever had a house or apartment robbed? The material loss is nothing. The effects are psychological and long term. Anyone who gets close to this person I try not to judge them. They, including yourself, were roped in by someone who is clearly a sociopath. And I say this as someone who supported him during the trial and his time in prison.
Thank you for your thoughts. Maybe I'm just different, but I don't get as deeply affected by the subtler effects of crime that you describe. Obviously, loss of life, injuries, deprivation of livelihood and other traumas are always a big deal. I haven't been a victim of anything that serious. I have been a victim of a number of crimes, though -- financial crimes, a car break-in (someone threw a brick through my window and trashed the inside of the car looking for something to steal...and failed to find anything valuable enough), and my car once got totaled by a reckless driver who didn't have insurance. I don't think any the perpetrators in these situations were ever brought to "justice," but I don't feel traumatized. I don't have ill will toward them. I just would want them not to do it again.
Sometimes it’s hard to see the damage before you are through the forest. Give it a couple years. Or live in denial, whatever is easier for you, it’s not my business. But, I wouldn’t compare car theft, or a car accident to someone breaking into the house you sleep in, or stealing millions of dollars from you (i’ve had both happen). I’ve had my car broken into multiple times this year, it’s not personal. It’s part of the taxes for living in a big city imo. The crimes you are describing with Martin are quite different. If there’s big one similarity between alpha personalities, and the people they attract, neither of them seem to understand their complicated relationship with danger. This is the meeting place for narcissists and masochists.
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It’s a middle class myth that, because someone’s financial reputation or situation is not altered significantly by a thief, that it isn’t as bad. I’ve come out of business situations where I felt assaulted by people with no moral compass, and it 1. brought out the worst in me once I realized how easy it is to lie to someone’s face for your own benefit and 2. made me cynical, sardonic even. Big surprise that the near billionaire he f’d over didn’t bat an eyelash. Once you’ve been that successful in the corporate battlefield greed doesn’t surprise, it’s the other way around. You’re pleasantly surprised when someone monetary successful isn’t an absolute monster. Think back to any time someone has stolen anything from you. Have you ever had a house or apartment robbed? The material loss is nothing. The effects are psychological and long term. Anyone who gets close to this person I try not to judge them. They, including yourself, were roped in by someone who is clearly a sociopath. And I say this as someone who supported him during the trial and his time in prison.